“i used to wait for my wholeness to be defined by my connections, now i choose to be whole in spite of them. who is in my life and who decides not to show up, does not reflect how full or empty i am. the keys to my wholeness are firmly in my grip.”
“imagine meeting someone who wanted to learn your past not to punish you, but to learn how you needed to be loved. Be inspired by people who don’t run away when they locate the darkness in you; who instead lean in & ask where the darkness stems from & how they can love you in the midst of it.”
They will come up with reasons to push you out of their life because they never had a place there for you to begin with. They’ll knit pick your personality, rip you apart, and all because they aren’t ready to love. This isn’t about you, despite how much they may try to convince you.. This isn’t about how much you care, or trying to hard. It’s about their inability to love you for who you are… we aren’t made for everyone. Not everyone will enjoy the twists in our head… someday someone might though… no sense in wasting time, or changing who we are for someone who doesn’t see the brilliance of our colors. If we pick ourselves apart because of their words… we will change who we are, and lose out on many years of finding someone who loves the authentic version of ourselves we ache to be… When other people can’t love you. Love yourself. Love the volume of your laugh when it’s genuine. Love the bubbly pieces of you others want to burst. Love the way you love with your entire being… someone will appreciate all of you. It is not her…